Mediation Proves to be a Stable and Healthy Alternative to In-Court Divorce

According to recent statistics on marriage rates in the United States, approximately 50 percent of first matrimonies end in divorce. While this percentage tends to fluctuate back and forth from year to year, the prevalence of custody arrangements remains a tell-tale sign that it is a common occurrence and that the children are innocent victims to the ordeal. If divorce becomes the proper conclusion to a marriage, mediation is a viable alternative to an in-court battle and is gaining in popularity.

Divorce mediation is a negotiation-style settlement between the two parties using a third-party settlement facilitator. The mediator has no power to make decisions for the divorcing spouses, forcing the two parties to openly and honestly discuss and decide upon the arrangements of the separation. Overall, it is a process that works to protect the rights of everyone through keeping all parties actively involved in the surrounding flow of information and decision making process. Also, with an impartial mediator, neither spouse is given preference over the other; helping both the adults and children view the separation with unbiased and balanced eyes. Thus, the children are not exposed to the unnecessary blaming or degradation that typically accompanies a divorce that requires litigation. With an even playing field, the divorce flows in a smooth and timely manner, avoiding any ill-will that accompanies stagnant dispute. The child is spared the unhealthy situations and the stress that accompanies the parent's adversarial court battle.

Settling out of court not only saves time and lessens emotional distress; it spares the children from the financial shrapnel of a contested divorce. The funding for an in-court divorce can drastically effect the child's present situation and future. Oftentimes, a couple's financial worth is substantially reduced after paying each party's attorney fees. Once the assets are finally divided there are fewer remaining resources available for the children. This can result in lower standards of living and less opportunities ranging from education to health. The stress of strained finances along with the already present anxiety from separation and conflict can produce deep emotional tolls on children.

Unfortunately, divorce is naturally difficult and stressful. Obtaining a mediator and handling the situation out of court and in an impartial and confidential manner is proving to be a less invasive, less stressful means to an end.